Written by Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai  | December 17, 2017

Pleasure mapping is when you take the time to explore the “pleasure spots” of both you and your partner(s).  This is not just a one-time thing, my friends.  It requires sexual curiosity, patience, and regular maintenance.  Here how to start:

1.  Pretend you’ve never had sex before.

I’m serious.  Try to place your old notions of what sex should look like in a box underneath the bed while you do this activity.  Discovery and pleasure are your homework.

2. Choose your own adventure. 

John Mayer kind of makes me cringe, but his lyrics are on point.  The body is this amazing wonderland that is often under-utilized and explored. Run your mouth, fingers, chest or whatever along you or your partner(s) body.  Slowly.  Intentionally. Blissfully.

3.  Take genitals off of the table.

Yaaaasss! Doooo itttt! Some of the best experiences can come from the anticipation and discovery of new toe curling “sexy spots”. The penis is NOT king. The vagina is NOT queen. The anus is NOT the prince or princess.  There is NO body monarchy.

4. Don’t be petty about time. 

Look, there isn’t always a 50/50 split when it comes to sex play.  But, it must be a mutually pleasurable experience.  Chat about it before you get started, and you will avoid sexual beefs (pun intended).