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Sex Ed for Grown Folks
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Bourbon Talez
I love Bourbon. I also am a fan of keeping it real when it comes to all things related to “sexytimes”. Bourbon Talez is the product of my love of sexual empowerment and intelligence.
This is your opportunity to ask me questions regarding ANYTHING related to sexytimes (Don’t trip. This is confidential), and I will give you my input or advice while sipping on my bourbon bev.
What does cheating do to your physical body & sex life?!
How do you get jazzed about sex when the world is on fire and people are showing their whole sh**y selves?
Mindful sex and being a “good” lover – Part 2
Mindful sex and being a “good” lover – Part 1
How to manage our feelings and desires when our partner has ED
“I’m a 33-year-old woman who has yet to have her sexual debut. Like, the most I’ve done is kiss someone. Do you have any advice for my first encounter??”
“I’m a 37-year-old, queer femme, and I’ve always had a fat body and I’ve never felt comfortable being naked in front of my partner. Any thoughts on how to build my sexy and move the needle on this issue?”
Sexual Perfectionism
“I’m a 30-year-old cisgender woman. I’m curious about how I’m supposed to continue to develop and explore my sexuality when I don’t have a partner?! ??♀️??♀️ Any advice would be so helpful. “
Sexual Pain: Part 2
“I’m a 25-year-old Korean American ciswomen and I’ve been with my partner for 2 years. Since George Floyd’s death, I’ve done a lot of internal work to figure out how I’ve participated in systemic racism and I feel that I’ve grown a lot in my own racial identity and as a community member. My partner recently asked me to participate in his fantasy where he is dominating me and I play the role of the submissive, Asian princess. ? I feel some type of way about it. Am I being overly sensitive or was that just racist?”
“I’m a 30-year-old non-binary vulva owner and I’ve been noticing that I’ve been fantasizing A LOT more about having sex with other people during my sexytime encounter with my partner. ? It’s not every time, but it’s enough to have me a bit worried. Is this common? If so, when does fantasizing become problematic?”
“I’m a cisgender woman and I just found out that the guy I’ve been dating for 5 months has faked his orgasm a few times and I feel some type of way about it. So my questions are 1) I thought men faking orgasms was an urban myth, 2) WHY is he faking (or why would cis-dudes fake an orgasm)?”
“I pee myself when I have sex! ??? It’s so embarrassing! besides peeing before sexytime, what can I do??”
“I’m a 37-year-old cisgender female and have pelvic organ prolapse with the delivery of my last kid, 4 years ago. Sex hasn’t been the same since. It feels AND looks very different, harder to orgasm, and I’m not even 100% sure it’s safe to have sex with a prolapse!! Help!”
“How do I assert my sexual boundaries or sexual needs without sacrificing affection?”
“I’m a 30-year-old non-binary vagina owner and I have endometriosis. What specific tips do you have to navigate sex with this condition?”
“I’m a 31-year-old cis-female and I’ve been with my partner who’s a non-binary vagina owner for 3 years. We have a great sex life, but are noticing vaginal penetration is just not as pleasurable as outercourse and would like to explore that more. Any advice on how to make vaginal penetration more pleasurable?”
“I’m a 38-year-old vagina owner and I’ve been with my partner for 6 years. We are currently in a sexual rut that I expected to automatically rebound from now that we both have more bandwidth… but it hasn’t happened. How do cultivate and jumpstart my sexual curiosity?”
“I’m a 28-year-old cis-female and my partner and I have been working really hard to get me to squirt with no success??. Any advice on how I can squirt on command during sex?”
“What do you do if your partner is bad in bed??”
“If I always have obligatory sex….is that bad for me? If so, how do I fix it?”
“I’m a 35-year-old vagina owner and I want to know, do people actually have period sex? Is it safe? How do you keep it from being messy? and can you have oral sex in your period?”
“I’m a 27-year-old woman and vagina owner and my mom told me that the more peeps I have sex with, the more I have to do kegels to prevent myself from have a “loose vagina. Is that a thing? If so, how do I prevent it?”
“I’m a 40-year-old, single woman and I’ve never been able to find my G-spot. It’s been bothering me (and previous partners) for years! Help me!”
“How do I dismantle the shame I feel with masturbation?”
Thoughts on the Attack on the Capitol
“I’ve been with partner for 2.5 years and I’m having a real hard time starting focused during sex. I’m SO DISTRACTED! They are a great lover and everything is good with us. I know there is no magic pill, but can you give me 1 or 2 techniques I can implement TONIGHT to help?”
“I watched my wife give birth 7 months ago and it was a bit traumatic to watch. She has healed up fine and initiates sex… but I’m the one holding back. Any advice?!”
“I’m 29-year-old cisgender female and I’ve been with my partner for a year now. Recently, I’ve been DRYING UP the middle of penetrative sex! Ugh! I’m super into it and aroused and I have healthy communication with my partner…. what gives?!”
“The guy I’m dating cums REALLY quickly. Like, really quickly. It’s starting to become a “thing”. I don’t want to shame him or make him feel insecure… so how do I approach this gently?”
“I’m a 28-year-old female and vagina owner and I have pain with orgasms. I still can experience pleasure, but the pain is pretty intense (and not in a good way). Any advice?”
“I’m a 40-year-old year old woman and vagina owner and I’ve had 3 kids within 4 years and my youngest is 3 years old. My husband works full-time and a half and I stay at home and love it. However I cannot feel penetrative intercourse with my partner. Like, at all. Why is this happening and what toys do you recommend?”
“How long is sex supposed to last and how can I last longer?”
“I’m a vagina owner with lifelong pelvic pain. I’m currently in PT, but having trouble bridging the gap into having pain-free penetrative intercourse. Any advice on how I can navigate this process better?”
How do I approach this 7-month friends-with-benefits situation?
“How do I get past lesbian bed death with my wife?!? We have all the intimacy levels…except sex. help!”
“I’m a 28-year-old man and I’m dating a new guy who had a spinal cord injury and uses a wheelchair to get around. I’m ready to take the next step with sex, but I don’t know how to bring the subject up. I have questions, but I don’t want to insult him or put all the burden on educating me on him. Any advice?”
“I’ve been dating this guy who won’t perform oral sex on me. ?? When is it too soon or too late to bring up this issue (I kinda like the guy)?
“I had a very difficult vaginal delivery that involved tearing and resulted in a difficult postpartum recovery. My partner is ready for penetration sex and I’m a bit freaked out. I want my sex life back, but I don’t know how to start.”
“My boyfriend wants me to perform anal play on him and I’ve never really thought about it, this I’m not super comfortable. I told him ‘no’ for now, and he ended up calling me “uptight”. How do I figure out if it’s something I want to do? And how do I let him down if I decide it’s not for me… without sounding ‘rigid’”.
“I have always had a hypersensitive clitoris and I’ve never enjoyed clitoral play because it’s too uncomfortable and distracts me from enjoying sex. I’m with a new partner and I really want to experience clitoral pleasure….Any tips?”
“I’m a 38-year-old woman and I’ve been married to my wife for 7 years. I’m scheduled to have a hysterectomy in 3.5 months and I’m freaked out on what it will do to my sex life! we already have been struggling with sexual issues over the past 1.5 years. Any advice on how to prevent more issues after surgery?”
“I’m a 29-year-old man and I recently gave my partner respectful and kind feedback about his oral sex skills. Unfortunately, I was met with negativity and it became a while thing. How do we move past it?”
“I’m a 34-year-old vagina owner and I’m recently single. I’m getting back into the dating pool and wanted to know your thoughts on having sex on the first date.”
“My long-term partner and I used to have hot, spontaneous sex. But after 2 kiddos and 2 big jobs… that spontaneity and excitement is gone. How do I get that spontaneity back?”
“What do I do if I can have an orgasm solo, but not with my partner? HELP!”
“My partner is a bit on the conservative side and newer to sex, how do I introduce my sexual fantasies to them without scaring them off?”
“I recently found out my partner consumes way more porn than I thought. I don’t have a problem with him watching porn, but….when is porn use problematic?”
“I’m a 30-year-old man with premature ejaculation. I’m talking maybe 30 to 40 secs. I recently learned that the pelvic floor can assist with this problem. How can I start?”
“I’m a 25-year-old non-binary person and I avoid and pick fights with my partner to avoid sex. My partner thinks it has to do with my sexual shame; and with further thought, I agree with them. How do I address sexual shame?”
“I’m a 31-year-old Black woman with sexual dysfunction and I’m worried that I’ve internalized the Black female archetype of “superwoman” and it’s impacted my sex life. What do I do?”
“I’m a 42-year-old woman and I’ve never really enjoyed sex. I have a great partner who loves it, and I feel bad because I don’t. You always say to chase my pleasure… but it hasn’t helped. Any advice on how to get pleasure when I never experienced it to begin with?”
“What do I do if I’m worried that my birth control has negatively impacted my libido and orgasm?”
“I’m a 28 year old black person and I have a complicated medical history. Given the past few weeks, my trust in the medical establishment has gotten even lower and I simply am not sure how to navigate my healthcare moving forward. Any advice?”
“I’m a 35 year-old black woman and I work in a corporate all-white environment with a lot of Amy Coopers who literally and figuratively cry “wolf” during interactions with me and I hold my tongue a lot so every few months I might get upset but then I look “crazy” like I’m an angry Black person.. and I’m really not. I know my job and I want to grow in this company but I am not sure how to negotiate this Amy Cooper situation. Any advice?”
“I’ve gained a few pounds during the Rona quarantine and its made me feel less sexy… any advice on how I can address this?”
“My wife and I had a ‘sexless’ marriage for years because of her pelvic pain; however, her pain is now no longer an issue, but now I’m struggling with erection issues. Help!”
“How do I get my partner to be more adventurous in the bedroom? “
“My girlfriend and I rarely have simultaneous orgasms, and the one time we did… she seemed to have the best orgasm. Are we supposed to orgasm at the same time? Is that better?”
